How she best learns

I was thinking back today on how I have trained my pet and what basically worked with her, as well as what didn’t. She seemed to learn best as I imagine most would on the praise and punishment system. No that didn’t mean she got bruatalized or anything when she screwed up. At first when learning something new in the very beginning she had a 3 reminder rule. I would remind her three times of something or point out what she did wrong and correct it, after that third  time she was expected to have learned the action, words or correction to either. If she did not have it after that point ramifications would occur. What made this system so effective I think is that when she did the new assigned task correctly she received a lot of praise and affection, when she screwed up the reminders were gentle concentrating on what was done right then pointing out what to add or take away as needed.

As she progressed in her servitude the reminders got less and less the corrections eventually disappeared and she was expected to know her assigned tasks and how best to carry them out. She has learned through trial and error with both gentle and not so gentle reminders how best to conduct herself in the manner pleasing to her Master. At all times there was open communication involved. If at any time she had a question or was in need of clarifiaction she could speak her mind and was encouraged to do so. It was a good way to get a glimpse of her mind set also. Her tone was often a good indicator of what she was having a problem with or what she did not particualrly care for. from that I could gauge where a problem area may be and who’s side the problem may lie on. Such as was I expecting too much to soon or was this really what I wanted from her whereas her suggestion made a little more sense, or was she just being stubborn and trying to get her way or get out of something.

So a lot of talks were had when she was learning new  postures, positions ways of pleasing etc. eventually she got to the point where I had been too lenient and she had become lax and we had the big discussion of  what did she expect fromthis relationship and what did I expect. (above and beyond the marriage pertaining to the Master / slave dynamic) she made the choice of total slave which I can’t lie suited me perfectly and was what I was pushing for. But I always sabataged myself by slipping into “husband mode” and wound up sending crossed messages. So with that talk and discussion we both solved a lot of headache right there. Now when she is taught new things she is given a run through of what is expected, allowed one correction and is then on her own with it. In cases of something more complex she is given more leeway. But she adapts fast and is always eager to please so there are rarely any problems with a new task these days.